I had to say no to say yes to something better

I had to say No last week to something I love. Something that only happens once a month and I was so looking forward to for weeks!


Because my body was sending me strong signals of a need for rest. I’d been nursing a headache all day and fighting just to make it through my commitments.

While I would have loved nothing more than to attend my Spanish meetup group, filled with the most kind, friendly, patient, and interesting people, and get excited as I challenge my brain in new ways…

I chose to listen. I stayed home to rest.

If I’m not feeling well, I know I’ll only be partly present with the group. I’ll bring an energy of frustration, distraction, and disappointment.

The morning of, I told them I was going.

But it wouldn’t be worth it to “tough it out.”

Do you feel the need sometimes to tough it out? To still honor your commitments despite not feeling your best and knowing you won’t be fully present?

I want to let you know that it’s okay to change your mind.

This time of year there are lots of parties, gatherings, activities, and it’s easy to get caught up in the excitement, wanting to spend time with as many people as possible and go to every event.

In the moment of invitation, it may feel joyful.

But if the day comes and your body is asking for something different, it’s okay to say no, even if you already said yes.

Our bodies are wise beyond our ability to comprehend. They are speaking to us physically and emotionally.

They want what’s best for us, and they want us to be fully present to enjoy this beautiful life.

Sometimes they need to recharge.

I stayed in that night and relaxed. I crawled into bed around 6:30 to nap and watch a movie, and then went to bed. The next morning I awoke feeling SO REFRESHED! No more headache!

Our ability to be present in the world is like a battery. When we get drained, we start to shut down. Plug yourself in to “chill out” mode before you get to that point. 

Not only will YOU have a more fulfilling experience, but the people around you will appreciate being with the best version of you – the one that’s well-rested and attentive.

YOUR TURN: How are you feeling today? Can you take a few minutes to check in with your body and listen to what it wants from you? Perhaps rest, exercise, an earlier bedtime, adjustments in types of food or mealtimes. Set the intention to listen so you can be even better at giving yourself exactly what you need.

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